Being Present



“There is only now. And look! How rich we are in it.” ~ Vanna Bonta

We often go through life thinking we will always have more time. Yet, time can be a funny thing, illusive and fleeting when we least suspect it. A construct that can bring us undue stress and anxiety if not managed wisely. A thing that passes quickly as most parents know.

So imagine…In an effort to make my point, you have a bank account that carries over no balance from day to day. Every evening whatever part of the balance you did not use during the day is deleted. What would you do? Draw it out I hope!

We all have such an account, its called time. It carries over no balance and each day opens a new account for us. There is no going back, there is no drawing against tomorrow, we must live on (and in) the present balance.

Today is a gift

So be reminded, today is your gift, open it up and wear it out! Treasure every moment you have, and treasure every moment you have with your children, because the time you share with them is the very foundation that their lives are built on. When we are living in the “here and now” we are at our best – and it is our children who are so good at it. I actually learned the lesson of “being present” from my son when he was young.

One afternoon Ryan was sitting at the island cabinet in the kitchen coloring. My back faced him as I prepared dinner, when he said, “Look mom, what do you think of my drawing?” To which I instantaneously remarked, “It’s great Ryan!”

Innocently he replied, “Wow, that’s really good mom! You saw my picture without even turning around!” Stunned into awareness by his words and childlike belief that I actually did see his picture, I stopped and became present, with him; looking at the drawing and at the miracle I brought into the world. It was in that instant that I realized the powerful impression that our behavior makes on our children, and it was in that instant that I became aware that we must live in “present time” if we want to raise kids for the distance.

Cathi Curen © 2015 (Modified excerpt from Parent Quest: Raising Kids for the Distance in an Instant World © 2007)

Cathi Curen 11Cathi Curen, is a holistic coach, speaker, event organizer, and host of Holistic Children Radio. She is the author of the “Me + U” Interactive Journal Series which helps individuals to communicate authentically and respectively.

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  1. Fantastic! Just what I needed to read

    1. Thank you Chrissy for “being present.” 🙂

  2. Absolutely! All we have is the here and now.

    1. Thank you Noel for sharing a few of your moments here…

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